When Things Go Wrong – Part 3

This part of a series of posts.  If you have not read Parts 1 and 2 I suggest you scroll down and read these (in order) first, otherwise you will be in the middle of the conversation.

In Part 2 I started a discussion about what I call the ‘blame game’.  The blame game is the game some people play when things go wrong in their life.  The basic premise of the blame game goes something like this, “There are some things going wrong in my life, and I want to know who is responsible, and who will be punished for this.”

In the gospel of John chapter 9, we see a full chapter devoted to this topic.  This chapter deals with a blind man that was healed by Jesus.  When they first encounter this man the disciples ask Jesus the question, “Lord, who sinned that this man was born blind?  Was it his sin or the sin of his parents?”

In short, the disciples wanted to know who was responsible for this condition, and what did they do wrong?  Jesus doesn’t go down that path, and opens their understanding (and ours) to the reality that there are some things where the ‘blame game’ does not apply.  In fact, in this case we might as well say it was Adam’s fault that this man was born blind, as it was Adam’s original sin that brought pain and suffering to our world.

Jesus never allowed Himself to get roped into the blame game.  He focused more on what the solution was, and not on how the problem got started.

The truth is the ‘blame game’ is our way of rationalizing a situation that doesn’t make sense to us.  In fact, the ‘blame game’ is closely associated with superstition.

While folks will hardly admit they believe in superstition, they often practice it without recognizing it.  Without getting into unnecessary details, let’s just say superstition is a method for explaining those things we cannot explain through our own understanding or logic.  In other words, superstition is a way of explaining things that have no explanation.  Superstition doesn’t have to make sense, but it has to make sense in explaining the unexplainable things that occur in life.  The blame game is associated with superstition in attempting to explain things that don’t make sense to us.

That is a big assertion, and I think I’ll let you think on that one, as it is probably a big jump for many folks, as I suspect most of us would say we don’t believe in superstition.

From everything I can gather from the Word of God, playing the blame game does not get you to a solution.  It only distracts you from seeking a solution.

There are many adults today that blame all kinds of things they experience in life on their parents.  Some blame their life experience on the fact they were not loved, they were abused, they didn’t get the things they rightly deserved, they were done wrong, they were falsely accused, they were slandered, they were made to feel small and unimportant, they were never praised for their achievements, my parents were poor, my parents were rich, the list is endless.  Years ago when my mom was asked the question, “What do you think about this disfunctional family?”  She simply answered, “Aren’t all families disfunctional?”

In other words, forget about the blame game.  We are where we are, and now the responsibility is on our plate, and what are we going to do now?  Playing the blame game does not get you to where you need to be.

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