A Reboot – Not a Band Aid

December 7, 2019

As human beings we often feel all we really need from God is a little help.  Help with our health.  Help with our job.  Help with our finances.  Help will our family.  In other words, just a band aid will do.  We will take care of the rest.  After all, who really wants to ‘change’ their life?  No, just a band aid would work fine.

In our modern times we deal with lots of electronics.  TV’s, computers, tablets, phones, gadgets, the list gets long.  Many of these devices run continuously, and do a decent job.  But, once in awhile, they require a reboot.  A complete shutdown and restart.  We generally do this as a last resort, as it can be a hassle.  But, nothing else will work.  We’ve tried all the band aids, looked on Google, looked on YouTube, and, no, nothing helps.  A reboot clears memory and starts fresh, and we can continue moving forward with, perhaps, a little less clutter.

In our own lives maybe this applies, too.  We think we only need a band aid, but God thinks a reboot would be the only thing to fix our problems.  Not a reboot to continue in the same direction, but a reboot with a new perspective, a new outlook, maybe with a new direction and motivation.

Of course, this is not something we can ‘think’, ‘wish’, or use will-power to accomplish.  It simply doesn’t work that way.  This is not a self-help or self-improvement program.  This is a ‘reboot’ that comes from God, Himself.

In Luke 7 we are told of the story of Jesus raising to life again a young man, the only son of a widow woman.  We are not told what caused the young man to die, however.  Could have been an accident.  Or, could have been a disease.  Maybe a weak heart.  But, then again, it could have been related to his own behavior and actions.  Maybe he was part of a gang.  Maybe he was killed stealing something.  Maybe he drank himself to death.  Maybe he fell into the wrong crowd and was killed in a vendetta.  I’ve been thinking about this.  Is it possible that when Jesus raised him back to life, it was his chance for a ‘reboot’?  To do things differently.  To think and act differently.  To start life new, with new chances, new opportunities, new direction?  Not a band aid, but a complete reboot.  A chance to do things better.

Now let’s be clear.  A life reboot doesn’t mean all your situations and problems disappear.  It has more to do with your attitude, outlook, and approach to these things than it does about those things changing or disappearing.  You change.

How does this come about?  Well, as I said, it is not something you can do on your own.  This is definitely in God’s realm.  Through prayer, and reading His Word, He can help you with the ‘reboot’ you need.  But, you have to be willing.  It’s not a patch, not a band aid, not a ‘I just need a little help, God’ type of thing.  You have to be willing to think and do things differently.  You have to be willing to let God take control.

Years ago there was a book (if I remember correctly), titled “God is My Co-Pilot”.  Well, sorry, it may have been a good book, but that is not how it is supposed to work.  God IS the pilot, and if you are lucky you get to be the co-pilot, or trainee.

Well, where are you?  Do you need another band aid, or is it time for a reboot?

The Three Levels

November 17, 2019

When looking at the New Testament, we see a lot of examples of the word “love”.  In the original Greek there are two forms that are most commonly used to describe the English word “love” – Agape and Phileo.  Briefly stated, Agape love is the highest form, and most associated with God’s love which surpasses our human understanding, while Phileo is akin to friendship or family love, possibly the highest humans can express except through the Holy Spirit of God.

But, in this post I want to talk about three levels of love.  I don’t have labels for these three levels, but they are progressive, meaning that as we go from one level to the next it encompasses all of the characteristics of the lower levels, plus some new ones.  So, we start with Level 1 love.

Level 1 – this type of love is involved in attraction, and bonding with individuals on some common interests, charm, wit, even physical attributes.  It is powerful, and not to be ignored, as it might be stated that most marriages start with this level.  Level 1 level is generally dependent on reciprocation, simply meaning that we expect something in return for giving our love to an individual.

Level 2 – encompasses all of the elements of Level 1, but adds to it the concept of accepting one’s differences.  Differences in opinion, likes and dislikes, and other things too.  It is more than simply tolerating those differences, but includes an understanding and sensitivity that we are not all the same, and in order for love to progress beyond Level 1 we must be willing to embrace differences in those we love, as well as those things we have in common.  In some cases, these differences can pull people in separate directions, but in the best of cases it can result in achieving a higher level of love.

Level 3 – ah, here we go.  Of course, Level 3 includes all the elements of Levels 1 and 2, but adds something new – the concept of forgiveness of faults.  Not just recognition and acceptance of faults, but true ‘living’ forgiveness of our faults and failures.  I say ‘living’ because it is not a one-time thing, but a living and growing thing.  Forgiveness goes beyond toleration of faults, but moves into the realm of God, Himself.  We are not happy about the failures of others, but we are not happy about our own faults, either.  Level 3 recognizes that without forgiveness we are living on slippery ground in our relationships.  The only to really understand Level 3 is to examine what the Bible says about God’s love towards us.  God loves us, not only when we are good, but when we are bad, also.  He doesn’t want us to do bad, but He loves us anyways.  We fail, we stumble, we have faults and weaknesses, but God loves us through all these.  The power of this love makes us get up and try again, and strive to do better.  This loves does not give up or fail.  Level 3 goes one step further – it loves even when that love brings pain and heartache to our lives because of the failures or mistakes of others.  Level 3 is not achieved through automatic means, but must be constantly maintained and kept active through effort, commitment, and a genuine understanding of the frailty and humanness of others.  Level 3 love takes time and doesn’t happen overnight.  Level 3 cannot survive without some, or all, the elements in Levels 1 and 2.  Level 3 does not depend on reciprocation or reward, but is instead a choice.  Level 3 is not an emotion that fluctuates up and down with how we feel at the moment.

It has been said that we can never achieve Agape love, because it is so much higher than human love.  I’m not so sure.  If we want to love as God loves, then we must strive for Level 3.

Final note – it is important to distinguish between love at Level 3 and a destructive or abusive love, which is a distortion of the true thing.  Destructive or abusive love is where one individual constantly takes advantage and inflicts damage or hurt on another, but the receiver contains to love the abuser.  This is not Godly, or even in the same ballpark as what we have been talking about.  There are times when a relationship should end, because God does not expect us to endure constant pain and suffering inflicted without concern from a partner or friend.  Your love may continue, but the relationship may have to be brought to a closure, in order for you to achieve your God-given purpose and life.

God’s Choices

November 14, 2019

It’s a bit hard to understand why God does what He does.  There is no shortage of ‘experts’, however, who are willing to write books, give lectures, and teach classes that apparently know exactly why and how God does what He does.  They are mostly wrong, or at least misled.  The truth is that how and why God does what He does is largely a mystery, but is not completely unknown.

To pull this into perspective let’s take a solid example.  In Acts 16 we see Paul and Silas in Philippi, where they are tied and beaten.  The scripture actually says ‘many stripes’, so it was not a light beating.

“And when they had laid many stripes upon them, they cast them into prison, charging the jailor to keep them safely:”

Later that night as Paul and Silas are praying and singing, they are delivered from the prison.  Now, here is where it gets interesting.  Although they are delivered from prison, and help get the jailor and his family saved, Paul and Silas’ wounds are not healed.  How do we know this?  Because in this scripture:

“And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway.”

If Paul and Silas were healed of their wounds then why would the jailor ‘wash their stripes’?

But, the mystery does grow deeper.  Later in the book of Acts we read,

And God wrought special miracles by the hands of Paul:

So that from his body were brought unto the sick handkerchiefs or aprons, and the diseases departed from them, and the evil spirits went out of them.”

So, Paul had the gift of healing, but could not heal himself.

While there are many explanations, I think the best might be something like this:

“When God performs healings or miracles there are specific purposes that only He completely understands.  In some cases we might see the reasons, but in others, the reasons are hidden from our view.”

What God does, and what He does not do, are not completely understood by anyone on this side of heaven.  But, rest assured – there is a reason and purpose behind everything God does, and doesn’t do.

If we cannot know how God will act then why should we waste our time praying?  Why pray for something that might never happen?

Good question, and I’m probably not qualified to answer that one.  All I can tell you is about myself.

Every night I pray a special prayer for believers who are suffering.  The suffering may be physical, mental, financial, relationship, the need for food, clothing, clean water.  The suffering may be at the hands of tyrants or oppressors.  The suffering may be from their own mistakes and choices.  Regardless – I pray for them.  Some might say this is a useless prayer, as it is too general, and tries to cover to many cases.  I would argue, “How do you know it is useless?  Only God can judge if my prayer is useless or fruitless.”  I believe there are results to my prayers, not because I’m anyone special or gifted, but because I have faith in someone who is greater than me, and know His compassion and mercy.

What is my point?  My point is simply this – don’t try and understand how and why God does what He does.  It is only important to have faith in his ability and to know that your prayers and labors are not in vain.

When is Enough, Enough?

November 12, 2019

I hate postings that are philosophical, don’t you?  Most of the time philosophical writings are meanderings of a mind trying to answer questions that cannot be answered.  But, here I go…

I think most everyone wants to live a life that is meaningful, successful, full of positive achievements, etc…

But, how is that measured?  In our human existence it is mostly measured in terms of civic accomplishments, business accomplishments, humanitarian accomplishments, fame, wealth, and even acts of infamy.  Little note is given to those majority of people who never make the evening news, never achieve positions of great power or wealth.  They’re simply living their lives the best they can.

So, when is enough, enough?  When can we say we have fulfilled our purpose God has given us, and we have done a good job at it?  That’s a difficult one to answer, as God is the sole judge as to the meaningfulness and real accomplishments of our life.  From everything I can gain from His Word, it has nothing to do with the things we deem important, such as fame, wealth, position, or even world-achievements.  God seems to care less whether we built the Golden Gate Bridge, or a little toy bridge for our grandchildren.

Then what does carry weight with God?

Well, one, our relationship with Him.  But, secondly, what we do for others while we have the opportunity.  It doesn’t seem to matter if the task is large or small.  Also doesn’t matter if it makes the newspapers or is completely unknown to anyone but Him.

I believe every life has a purpose.  This purpose is not for evil or destruction, or selfish ambition.  It is a test.  A test designed to determine our true nature, character, and obedience.  The only judge is God, Himself.  While living there is little means to quantify and measure our score card.  This will be tallied when He calls us home.

It has long been on my mind that it is certainly impossible to help everyone, therefore, the task must seem too big to tackle, so why bother?  While it may be true you cannot help everyone, that is not your job,  Your job may be to help someone you can help.  No, you cannot fix everyone else’s problems, nor should you try.  But, what if the task is not to fix a problem, but to simply render aid.  We always think of aid in terms of $$$ and gifts, but there could be more involved than those things.  A word of encouragement.  A handshake or embrace at the right time and place.  Listening.  Praying.  Sharing someone’s burden.  Giving a cup of cool water.

Granted, these things don’t seem to add up to much.  And when measuring a life of such little tasks, it may seem far too little accomplished to amount to much.  But, if that is what God has called you to do who can say it is too little, or doesn’t add up to much?  Ultimately, He will be the final judge of what we have accomplished, and if we have fulfilled what His purpose for us has been.

Was the world helped by our being around, or did we simply consume air, food, clothes, and time?  Was anyone helped by our being put here by our Creator?  It is a question we should ask ourselves, at least once or twice…

Stop Being the Victim

November 2, 2019

Now what in the world does that title mean?  It means simply this — we often find ourselves in circumstances, situations, and ‘fixes’ that push us into the realm of ‘being the victim’.  We’ve been taken advantage of.  We’ve been swindled.  We’ve received a raw deal.  We were unfairly judged, or lied about.  There were harsh words and actions against us.  We have been unlucky.  Our timing is not good.

These things, and more, put us into the role of ‘being the victim’.  We whine. We complain. We encourage sympathy for our plight and situation.  But, here’s the bottom line – it does you no good to be the victim.

Note, this does not diminish the reality that you have been done wrong or treated unfairly.  When I say ‘stop being the victim’ I’m not talking about your circumstance – I’m talking about your mindset.

If your mindset is always about the things listed above you are not going to go anywhere, and will be of little help to anyone else.  You have to break free of your ‘victim’ mindset, and move on with your life.

Of course, bad things tend to overwhelm the good things in our life.  It’s not that hard to understand.  If you smash your finger with a hammer, it suddenly doesn’t matter if the rest of your body feels good.  All you can think about is the thing that is wrong and painful.  This is being human.

But, when it comes to playing the victim, we do have choices.  Unlike the smashed finger, we can, with prayer and dedication, push aside our victim mentality, and start to get things done.  Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have.  Don’t focus on those talents you envy in others – focus on the talents God has given you.  He made you unique for a purpose – get on with it, push down any thought or mindset that always makes you the ‘victim’.

The Wrong Prayer

October 28, 2019

In 1 Samuel 17 we see the familiar story of David and Goliath.  It’s not really a ‘story’, but more of a historical accounting of the events.  Hidden in this story are two ways people can pray.

Long before David showed up on the scene Goliath had been showing himself and scaring the Israelite soldiers for 40 days.  Although I don’t know for sure I’m fairly certain there were a lot of prayers going up, many of which might have sounded something like this:

“Oh God, please remove this giant from us.”

“Oh God, please let the giant die.”

“Oh God, when will this giant stop threatening us?  Isn’t there something you can do?”

Which, by the way, is often how we pray when encountering a scary or uncertain person, thing, event, or circumstance.

When David shows up on the scene, things change.  And, though I don’t know exactly what David prayed that day, I feel it might have been something like this:

“Oh God, give me strength, skill, and courage to prevail over this giant.”

God could have easily have gotten rid of the giant Himself, but He chose to use a man.  God could easily get rid of your obstacle, your problem, your giant, too, but maybe He wants to use a man or woman instead.  Not just any man or woman, but one of faith, knowing what God can do.

David didn’t face the giant alone.  But, he knew that God had delivered him from the lion and bear, and he had faith God would deliver him from the giant, too.  But, not with words or thoughts.  Action would be required.  That action, coupled with faith, produced the desired result.

So, which way will we pray?

Does God Limit His Knowledge – Part 2

October 14, 2019

After thinking about this, I realize I didn’t quite cover the subject I intended to in my first post, so we will give it another try.

Let me say first, the title is a little misleading.  It actually means, “Does God Limit His Knowledge When Dealing With Us?”  In other words, does God intentionally limit how He deals with us concerning knowledge?  Of course, the answer is Yes, He does.  Why?  For our own benefit.  We would not be able to understand, comprehend, or be able to deal with all the knowledge God has.  He limits His dealings with us to those things that are necessary for us to complete our mission.  In the military we had a term for that very thing – “Need to know”.  We only discussed classified information on a ‘need to know’ basis.  If you didn’t need to know something, and even if you had sufficient clearance, it was not discussed.

When Jesus was having one of his last conversations with His disciples, after the resurrection, He was asked if the ‘kingdom’ would now be restored to Israel?  They earnestly wanted to know if Israel would at last be free from Roman domination.  Jesus answered them, that it was not for them to know the times and seasons that the Father had placed under His own control.  In other words, “You don’t need to know”.

I remember a few years ago I was praying on a continual basis, “God please explain how things work to me.”  For a long time no answer, but I kept praying the same prayer, as I wanted to know.  Finally, I did get a reply, but not the one I expected, “If I told you, you wouldn’t understand.”  I think the meaning is pretty clear.  God’s plans and thoughts are higher than ours.  So high, you wouldn’t understand them, even if He explained them to you.

The things that are necessary for you to know about God are revealed to us in His Word.  God can give special revelation or information, but nothing that would contradict His own Word, and nothing that could be added to, or subtracted from, His Word.  There are many people who have a ‘special’ word from God, that no one else has.  I’m somewhat skeptical of such things.  While God can give messages to preachers and teachers, there is no person who has a ‘lock’ on knowledge of God or His plans.  There is no other mediator between God and man.  There is no special messenger who reveals secrets about God.

Well, I still haven’t explained what I wanted to, so there must be a Part 3 in the making.

Does God Limit His Knowledge?

October 13, 2019

This is a topic for which I’m totally unqualified to comment on or pose theories, but here we go again.

We know that God knows everything.  There is nothing hidden from Him, concerning the past, present, or future.  However, when dealing with us He does seem to limit His vast knowledge, probably for our own good.

God deals with us in the ‘here and now’ aspect of our lives.  He doesn’t second guess or reveal the future to us, or our future failures.

Virtually every scripture reference where God deals directly with an individual we can see this at work.  There are a few rare instances where God does reveal certain future events to people, but it is rare and selective.  For example, Jesus reveals to Peter that Peter will deny Him three times.  This is certainly a revelation concerning the future, but these events are rare compared with God’s regular practice of dealing with the ‘here and now’ aspect of a person’s life.

Rather than drawing on specific examples, and there are many, to prove my point, I’d rather ask the question, “Why does He do this?”

I suspect it is because we simply could not deal with it.  Jesus, Himself, directs us to deal with day at hand, and not try to solve all future problems.  The burden is simply too great.  Take for example the marriage of two people who are in love.  Would it be proper to advise them there are many hard challenges ahead of them, or that should they live long enough, one of them may have to bury the other? Of course not.  Anymore than it would be proper to tell the mother of a new child that there may be many heartaches ahead when the child grows to be a rebellious teenager.

God did not design and build us to deal with such unknown future events, which may, or may not, come to pass.  We are simply to deal with life as it comes.  Not always knowing which twists and turns lie in our path.

I will use one illustration to drive my point home.  Jesus knew well ahead of time that He would be called on to sacrifice His life, and be brutally treated and crucified during Passover.  But, He refused to deal with the agony of this event ahead of time, as there were many tasks that still needed to be accomplished.  It wasn’t until that very morning, in the Garden, that He dealt with the enormity and struggle associated with this event.  By pushing the worry, anxiety, stress, and paralyzing fear ahead, He dealt with it at the appropriate time, and not a day before.

We are fearful of many things:  our health, our children’s future, our pending death, our financial future, the world’s future, questions about the economy, fears of conflict and possible war, our career, the list is endless.  In the end, most of these things we can do nothing about, but that doesn’t stop of us from being fearful or anxious.

I’m not saying I have mastered this concept, as I’m still working on it.  But, the more I can focus on the ‘here and now’ the less stress I experience in my own life.

This idea almost seems like a cop-out, but it is not.  It’s part of self-preservation and keeping a sound mind in the midst of trouble and chaos going on around us.  God has a hand in our future, and the things that come into our life.  We have to trust His judgment that He knows what He is doing.

This does not give excuse to not planning ahead.  Planning ahead is a good thing.  Stressing about it, being anxious about it, worrying about it,those are the things to be avoided, as they paralyze us with fear, and prevent us from doing what needs to be done right now.

You cannot change the past, and your don’t know the future, so all you can really focus on is today.  If we can learn how to do that we will all do much better.

Standing Still

September 29, 2019

There are quite a few things that can cause Christians to ‘stand still’ or be paralyzed in their work or purpose that God has intended for them.  I don’t have room to deal with them all, but I’ll tackle one – Shame.

Shame occurs when we’ve done something wrong, or made a mistake.  We ask for forgiveness, but sometimes the shame lives on.  If the shame isn’t dealt with it can hinder our progress, or even bring our progress to a standstill.

Now let’s be clear, if an individual does wrong and doesn’t feel shame there is something out of place.  It is perfectly right to feel shame.  But, the danger is finding a ‘nesting place’ within that shame and never leaving it.

After some careful thought, I’ve only been able to come up with one way to deal with the shame, or put it in the past – lay it at the feet of Jesus, and don’t pick it up again.

This is harder than it sounds.  In fact, it sounds like a cop-out, or a way to justify continuing to do wrong, and taking no responsibility for it.

There is something else about shame.  Even if you lay it at the feet of Jesus and walk away, it wants to follow you, and reattach itself to you.  You can’t seem to shake it.

Well, let’s take one thing at a time.  Laying our shame at the feet of Jesus sounds easy, but even that act can bring additional shame as it seems unfair.  Unfair to whom?  To God.  In order for shame to be done away with someone must pay the price for it.  Nothing is free.  The good news is the penalty for the wrong and the associated shame has already been paid.  So, is it unfair?  Yes.  If it is unfair then why did God do it?  Love.  Simple as that.

So, what do we do if shame tries to show up again, and remind us of our weaknesses and failures?  Rebuke it, in the Name of Jesus.  It’s simply a ploy of the devil to bring up our failures and wrongs of the past, and to constantly remind us.

Note – you cannot have an argument with the enemy.  Wrong approach.  No argument is going to profit you.  One way to rebuke the enemy is to simply say, “I have been forgiven, and if you have problem with that, you need to discuss it with Jesus as I have nothing more to say to you.”

However, this does not keep the enemy from trying again, but stay firm.

Shame affects us all.  I don’t think there are any exemptions, as all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.  But, once again, you don’t have to live there.

Into That Good Night

September 22, 2019

Do not go gentle into that good night
Dylan Thomas
Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

An interesting poem, but the core message seems to be clear.  Life is to be lived, and regardless of what may come, whether disease, dementia, illness, or even sudden death, every moment counts.  There is still the capacity to do good, to make a difference.  Life is not always about ourselves, and what we want or need.  The full capacity of life can only be realized when we find something we can do, or say, for the benefit of others.  It may seem small and insignificant, but even little things may matter to someone who is dying of the thirst of an encouraging word.

This poem may be viewed as mostly negative, and a ‘downer’.  But, I see in it the marks of something bright and positive.  A declaration of war against apathy and complacency.  The day of my mother-in-law’s passing, my wife heard her say, “I’m still kicking!”.  A few hours later she was gone.  The fighting spirit never failed her.  So, when you feel like giving up, remember these few words…